You have your first baby and bring it home to love and snuggle and be in bliss with. Then people start to ask, is he/she a good baby? What does that mean really? Does it mean that he sleeps through the night, sits content in the shopping cart, smiles all the time, never cries? If the answer to that is yes, then no I didn't have a good baby the first or second time. So then what do I refer to my little ones as bad babies? That is just terrible!
My friend Monica shared with me the term high need baby. I love it, because it fits my kids. They are so easy on so many levels yet can be pretty high need. Cole was never a good night sleeper as an infant and then even into toddlerhood. He hated being strapped in most anywhere. He also hated when he was left by me, he'd cry for hours. However, he loved the bath, smiled almost all the time, ate any kind of food and was our joy! Cecily cried a lot her first few months and threw up everywhere all the time. She napped, but her night sleep is still a challenge. She is busy as can be! She is so fun though and a trip to watch try to keep up with her brother. She will sit in her high chair for a really long time, which means I get to eat sometimes:) The thing is that I don't know if any child can be "good" or "bad" and are there really babies out there that aren't high need? They are babies and designed to have needs. I love my children just the way they are even though on occasion I crave that extra sleep. They are designed for me and challenge me to be a better mom every day. So today I am grateful for my high need kids, this may be inspired by the fact that they are currently playing wonderfully together across the room. You may want to check with me on this one tomorrow, I may change my mind!
How is your child a challenge?